How do you think the guys are reacting when they start to be very angry? How they express that?
Oh god. Oh god oh god! I just accidentally found this old Ask in my Drafts D: how long has it been there already? I’m so sorry you had to wait so long, Anon ;o;
Let’s jump right into it then, to not make it take even longer, ok? Ok.
He’s a bitch. He doesn’t get loud, he doesn’t get physically violent, he won’t even call you names. He’ll just stuff his fists into his pockets, take deep, audible breathes and stare at you with blank expression for a long long time. Until an ice cold but at the same time sickeningly sweet smile creeps onto his face. And then he opens his mouth and his voice is just as awfully sweet and cold as the look in his eyes and not a single one of his sentences directed at you isn’t laced with passive-aggressiveness. He’s not thinking about how it’s gonna be 5 minutes from now, he only wants you to feel just as angry/hurt/disappointed as you made him feel right now, so his words sting. The better he knows you and your insecurities, the worse it is, until every word of him feels like a punch into your solar plexus.
He screams, he shouts, he punches the wall, he throws things and he calls you words you didn’t even know existed, before they hit you in the face. They don’t hurt much, tho. Chester’s anger is a heavy storm but it passes and he forgives easily, if you just accidentally angered him and are honest about wanting to be forgiven.
10 years ago that wasn’t the case. The storm passed after a while, but he couldn’t forgive as easily, neither you, the one who pissed him off/hurt him, nor himself for being unable to just fucking stop getting worked up over it, to just stop caring.
It takes a lot to anger Dave, because he’s really good at not caring what other people think of him or the things he does
(and yeah, before you ask, he’s the best at that in the band. 2nd best is Joe, 3rd is Chaz (after putting a shitload of work into that), 4th is Brad, then comes Mike (he has these ridiculous standards for himself, and the possibility of not meeting them could literally kill him) and then comes Bourdie, who has the luck to usually not be the center of focus, tho, which calms him a lot). You have to either hurt someone close to him or be someone close to him and fucking up badly, to really piss him off/hurt him.
And when it happens… not much happens at all. He just stares at you in disbelief, shakes his head and leaves to calm down before something might slip off his tongue he could regret later. Maybe he’ll go for a run to stop his hands from wanting to clench into fists and to empty his head, so he won’t get even more worked up than he already is.
And then he’ll wait for you to apologize, to give him an opportunity to forgive you. He hates being angry and he always tries to see the best in people, so he’ll gladly accept any reason you give him to believe you didn’t really mean what you were saying/doing, that pissed him off in the first place.
The others admire him deeply for this attitude, which is one of these things Mike was talking about, when he mentioned how the whole balance within the band was off, when Dave wasn’t with them but touring with the Snax, early in their career.
Bourdie rarely really gets angered by other people as well. He often gets angry about himself, tho. The second the anger/hurt first hits him, tears swell up in his eyes - a reflex he deeply loathes but just can’t get rid of. He’ll flee, so no one will see these tears, and won’t return until he gained full control over himself again. Then he’ll bury himself in work. He once managed to “practice” in his private little drum studio for so long, he passed out when he got up to fetch himself a bottle of water.
And he’ll continue to retreat into himself like that, until you sit down with him and apologize. He’ll instantly forgive you, but it will take him a while to really let go of what happened.
He pales a little, frowns, asks if he just got that right, if you’re really serious with whatever you just said/did… and if you don’t shake your head but stay stubborn instead, he starts trying to talk some sense into your head (or, well, what he defines as “sense”, depending on the situation). His voice starts out low and struggling for a diplomatic tone, but quickly gets sharper and louder, because obviously you must be deaf or dumb, if you can’t see how wrong you are. He’s just as good as Mike in verbally hitting you where it hurts the most, only he doesn’t just aim at hurting you, he really means what he’s shouting at you, before he turns around and leaves, slamming the door shut behind him.
It takes him quite a while until he’s able to forgive you and even then he most likely won’t forget.
You won’t know. His eyes seem to get a bit darker and colder, but that’s about it. He will just keep going on with whatever he’s doing atm and you will never know just how much you just pissed him off or even hurt him, until days or weeks later when you start to notice how he doesn’t talk to you as much as he used to anymore and how his jokes are on your expense more often than not. And that’s about it. And even when you finally realize you fucked up and apologize profoundly you won’t be able to tell if he forgave you or not, even if he says he did.